Are feminists to blame for destroying marriage by confusing the roles one has in a relationship?

Do you know what women had to put up with in their long boring marriages how old are you. My mother was beaten by my father every time he came home drunk. Back then a woman wasn't aloud to get her tubes tied if she was under the age of 30. She had to get permission from her husband and if he wanted more kids she had to have them. After my mother had 7 kids my father signed the papers so she could get her tubes she was still only 27 she was pregnant from the time she was 16 on. She would have had 10 kids but she had 3 back alley abortions that could have killed her is that what you want to go back to where a husband has the right to beat his wife. A woman had NO rights back then men ruled everything and every job was held by men. I don't hate men i just hate men like my father who think women should be put in their place.